I once heard an answer that I absolutely loved: Marriage isn't about dragging each other down. It's about having someone in your life to cheer each other on, someone to brainstorm with when problems hit, someone to comfort and encourage you when you're tired. It’s having someone to share a meal with after work, and a warm hug waiting for you when you’ve had a tough day outside.
Life is long, and you just really need someone who gets you and will stick with you for the whole journey.
I drive, you're in the passenger seat, our favourite song is on, we're driving home after grocery shopping. You only realise that marriage is an exciting journey for two when you marry the right person.
The wedding? That's just a party, one loud, busy day. What actually supports your whole life is the love. When you feel that being together is way more fun than being alone, when you know you'll still face problems but you both have the faith that you'll sort them out together - that’s what marriage is all about.
Marriage can't just rely on those tiring words like "tolerance," "endurance," "understanding," or "harmony."
Marriage is not 1 + 1 = 2. It's 0.5 + 0.5 = 1. After getting married, both people need to lose half of their ego for the life together to be more harmonious. Don't expect your partner to be perfect, because knowing how to give and being forgiving—that's the best "preservative" for a marriage.
It’s about having that one person: who you talk with, who you zone out with, who you share those silly, 'only-we-get-it' things with.
Like the lyrics say:
"I want to steal the sunlight, the moonlight, and the tide, just to talk with you for a really long time, ideally with a rocking chair, so we can slowly grow old as time softly passes by."
Marriage gives you someone to talk to.
When you find the right person—like I did—you’ll come to realize that: Finding someone you can chat with anytime, anywhere, talking for an hour or two every day and still feeling happy and understood. Your partner is always ready to hear you out. Whether it’s joy, a complaint, or even the dark stuff inside your heart, you can be completely honest with them.
A good marriage isn't: "You make the money to support the family, and I'll be the pretty one,"
But rather, "We try hard together. You're great, and I'm not bad either."
I understand your hardship, and you understand my struggles.
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I found a person like that... My darling husband...
The one who is always ready to be silly with me, who cherishes me in every little thing in life, who notices when I have even a slight change in my health, and who is also honest enough to tell me where I've been wrong.
I love my husband in every action, every gesture he shows me. I love my husband just because he is who he is.
We will grow old, the future is distant, but with every day that passes, I realize I love him a little more, wishing a little more to happily grow old by his side, day by day.
Happy 2nd Wedding Anniversary... Here's to us waking up, eating, sleeping, and building our little home together, my dearest husband...
Hunnie, I love you so much...
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